When a young married couple becomes parents, all attention is switched to the child. It cannot be otherwise. The girl learns to be a mother, takes root in this new role for her, and the man, husband, for the first time tries on the role of father.
Admiration for a newborn baby and sincere care for him cannot go unnoticed by domestic animals. It is especially difficult for those pets that previously performed the role of a child in the family and took on all unspent love and care.
Most often they experience emotions of jealousy of a dog and a cat, small animals such as rodents, birds, reptiles are rarely able to experience such sensations. When such behavioral features are manifested, many owners decide to get rid of the pet: give it to someone, put it in an overexposure, sell it, or even put it to sleep.
What signs indicate that the pet is jealous?
You can suspect manifestations of jealousy on the part of the pet by noticing the following behavioral features:
- Demonstrative hygiene
Cats or small dogs can begin to defecate in the wrong places, and they usually pick things that belong to or smell of their baby. The objects of vandalism are: cot, high chair, walker, stroller. Cats can begin to urinate on the owner’s bed, shoes, uncleaned clothes.
Especially severe manifestations of jealousy are the rejection of food and drink. A dog or cat becomes lethargic, depressed, hides in secluded places, reluctantly eats food and drinks.
- A cautious or aggressive attitude towards the owners or the child.
Cats can hiss at the baby and show all the outward signs of aggression. Dilated pupils, ruffled hair, sharp, rhythmic tail movements are shown in the immediate vicinity of the child. Dogs can growl or bark when parents pick up a child or play with it. Some pets begin to show aggression also to the owner-owners of the house.
- Other behavioral changes may also indicate pet jealousy.
So, for example, cats become obsessive, constantly meow, worry, dogs run away from home.
It is necessary to distinguish between behavioral loss of appetite and symptoms of disease. If, in addition to loss of appetite, other signs are observed - vomiting, diarrhea, temperature, then the animal is most likely sick, and not jealous. Phones and address of the round-the-clock veterinary clinic, which can conduct high-quality diagnosis of the condition of the animal.
Signs of Unwanted Behavior
The behavior of the pet changes dramatically: he ceases to obey, begins to beg, steal food from the hosts table, gnaw at furniture and shoes. If a small puppy appears in the house, not accustomed to defecate on the street, the behavior of the pet changes dramatically: he stops listening, starts begging, stealing food from the hosts table, biting furniture and shoes. If a small puppy appears in the house, not accustomed to defecate on the street, With pronounced jealousy for the household, the dog does not even allow them to raise their voice on the owner. The pet can be jealous of the owner to the spouse. In this case, he will begin to impede even a conversation between husband and wife, and he can quite apprehend hugs, kisses inadequately: growl and even rush at the “opponent”.
How to fight
Jealousy for the puppy. If a puppy appears in the house, give the older pet as much attention as before. He should regularly receive his servings of goodies, caresses, games. Try to maintain the authority of the older dog by showing her that she is dominant over the puppy. Take joint walks, however, from time to time, walk the older pet separately. For the puppy, immediately organize a separate litter (place), bowls, accessories.
Jealousy for an adult dog. If an adult dog of the same sex with an old pet has appeared in the house, it is better to introduce the animals on the street. Let them sniff each other, and then they can be taken home together. There, the beginner should not be given increased attention. On the contrary, it is necessary to caress and encourage the “old-timer” more, but at the same time strictly suppress any manifestation of aggression on his part. Of course, aggression on the part of the beginner should not be allowed. Dogs walking together will help reconcile with each other and even make friends. Moreover, walking with pets is best in new places, at first the animals should be muzzled.
Jealousy for the household. If the dog is jealous of the owner for the household, this suggests that at an early age the owner made a mistake by taking all the care of the pet on himself. This can be fixed by gradually delegating authority. Start by feeding and giving goodies: let the household treat the pet, put food in the bowl and call him. Then you can walk the dog with the whole family, and then send one of the family members for a walk with the animal. Over time, it will be necessary to accustom the dog to the fact that all households can bathe and comb it. You should also ensure that the pet fulfills not only the owner’s commands, but also other family members, including children.
Jealousy for the newborn. The dog’s lifestyle should be changed before a newborn appears in the house. First of all, it concerns walks that need to be moved in advance by the selected time. Teach the animal not to go to the nursery. Let the dog’s entrance to this room be prohibited even before the baby’s birth. You will need to change the feeding time in advance. At the time of the first acquaintance, let the pet sniff the child - first from afar, and then close. Of course, control the animal, carefully monitor its reaction. If the pet is calm, be sure to encourage him with a treat, stroking, or playing.
How to find peace in the family and save a pet?
It is worth noting that often when a child grows up, most parents regret such decisions made under the influence of parental instinct and emotions. Pangs of conscience and longing for a pet can be so strong that the help of specialists will be required. Even if such decisions are easy and simple, they can cause a negative assessment of others and other family members.
However, such phenomena can be easily corrected and are not irreversible. You must always remember that the thoughts of the owner directly affect the result. Self-confidence, love and a sense of responsibility are the main keys to solving this problem.
Methods to Eliminate Pet Jealousy
The owners should understand that it is necessary to solve the problem in a comprehensive way: firstly, to allocate time for communication with the pet, secondly, to allow the pet to get acquainted with the child (to sniff, lick), and thirdly, to adequately respond to behavioral problems.
Acquaintance with the child is necessary for the animal in order to adopt him into the circle of his family. It is better to spend it in a relaxed atmosphere, after you have played with your pet, fed and walked. Almost all animals adequately relate to any cubs, including human ones, showing a feeling of tenderness and care. Avoid close contact is only with pronounced aggressive behavior, which is very rare.
If hygiene is not observed, it is necessary to immediately punish the prankster, but it is undesirable to use brute physical force. It is enough to loudly and expressively scold, lightly spank or sprinkle water (for cats) directly at the crime scene. In the absence of appetite, long walks and games help well.
In case of aggressive behavior, all contacts with the child should occur under the supervision of the owner, while any negative manifestations of behavior should be immediately stopped and punished. This rule especially applies to dogs that understand and respect subordination well.
Patience and love will not only allow you to keep your relationship with your pet, but also give the joy of communicating with a living being to a growing child.